Final chat with coachee Claudia

This week Claudia opted for the second form of conversation. She spoke with her aunt who she says is normally a great listener and is quite helpful when Claudia needs guidance. In past conversations Claudia has expressed difficulty with practicing presence and good listening and this week was no different. She said that her aunt thought it was strange because Claudia was "too quiet" as she was trying to focus on listening deeply. I advised her to take a different approach to listening and not to take it so literally. Listening is only generative and helpful if you are engaged with the conversation, so I suggested that she contribute more next time instead of only listening and not speaking. Also, she said that they spoke about nothing in particular, just "general stuff". This kind of exercise would be more useful with a conversation around a specific topic or idea. It is difficult to engage with a conversation if the topic and focus are constantly changing and not allowing for deeper analytic and generative growth.

Claudia agreed and said that in the future she thought this type of conversation would go better if she asked more questions and was more active in the conversation.